Remember the song "Vogue" by Madona.The lyrics "Beauty's where you find it Vogue, Strike A Pose ." Are some words to live by in my book. There has never been a time where I haven't did my hair or makeup... It's been work to get to my stylist! I know that Jerry loves my current hairstyle of choice. He says that he loves it when I wear my hair down, loose and wild.And when I wear jeans instead of sweats, when I wear a hot top instead of a over sized T-shirt. Doesn’t he understand that it takes time to do all that “girly” stuff? Oh HE DOES! And I make sure I have time to look like I didn’t just roll out of bed.
My husband likes being married to hot looking women.(His words not mine) In fact, I get more compliments from my guy when I wear my leather jacket and favorite jeans and when I get all dolled up. He just loves when I make the effort to look like my full-time job is something other than homemaker.
Wearing my hair loose and wild, wearing his favorite color or the necklace he gave me is just a little something to let him know that I’m thinking about him and care about his opinion. I say "It's time to Do a Little Research Again"
It may be time to do a little investigating, or even outright ask him.
The challenge here is that when I ask him, I also need to be prepared to listen to what he says.
To ask and then ignore his opinion is much worse than never asking at all. I don't want to appear vogue on the outside and vague on the inside. If I were to be honest with myself, I would like to look the best I can. Clothing and appearance affect how I feel and think about myself. It can lift my spirit and help give me confidence to face the real world.
" How I appear on the outside reflects my integrity and competence.I know that my initial contact with people,that my perceived credibility is based on appearance alone! First impressions lay the groundwork for establishing trust and believability."
The problem is this: My husband wants (and may I be so bold as to say he deserves) the best version of me, right now, that’s available.
What I am saying is that there’s no reason to postpone being the best that I can be, right now.
If money is an issue when it comes to clothes, I need to remember that I'm better off having three outfits that I know my husband loves me in, and I feel great wearing, than a couple of closets filled with things that are comfortable but make me look tired and dumpy. I pay attention to what my husband responds to. He gives me extra attention when I'm wearing something hot! Maybe it’s time to commit to wearing hot or cute tops a few times each week. My husband loves a necklace I have. I now have three shirt and jean combos that look great with that necklace. And when I get a compliment, I get to say (loud enough for Jerry to hear me), “I know, I love this necklace too. My husband picked it out. Doesn’t he have great taste?”
Dear God, I pray my husband knows he’s special to me in every way—that he is worth the extra effort.
Maybe the sexiest thing I could wear is a T-shirt with his team’s logo on it. Just saying!
Every time I'm shopping, I think about my husband’s favorite color and I always make sure to mention that I bought it with him in mind. (Maybe that's why he likes it when I spend a little too much for something I brought home) I bought a new shirt a few weeks ago. Every time I wear it he says, ‘I like that shirt,’ or ‘That shirts looks nice.’ So I wore that shirt on Sunday, and occasionally throughout the day I remembered his comments and felt more confident. So when I wear that pair of gold earrings my husband gave me. The card that he wrote when he gave them to me read ‘I love you more each day.’ So I call them my ‘I love you more each day earrings.' (real creative!)But he was impressed that I remembered what he had written on the card.”
Thursday, April 28, 2011
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Sunday, April 17, 2011
Spring Fever
The end of the school year is getting closer. The calendar isn't the only source that reveals that fact. The quality of my children's schoolwork is also an indicator. With the finish line in sight and carefree summer days just ahead, my children have rushed through their lessons. Half-answered history questions, and math books with high percentages of incorrect answers have confirmed that spring fever has hit our homeschool. I need to find something to motivate my children to finish the school year working to the best of their abilities.
Hmmm, I am also suffering from a time of spring fever. Being tempted to compromise my standards I halfheartedly work and slack off when it comes to maintaining study habits. I need self-control and discipline to finish the year, My children are looking to me to be an example of how they need to finish this year's homeschooling race. If spring fever is tempting me to be lazy and lax in disciplining my day-to-day schedule, I can't expect my kids to be much different. I need to pray and ask God to replace my lost motivation, And maintain my focus and finish strong.
Friday, April 15, 2011
There's No Way Around Busyness
My life goes so well if I stick to a schedule as best as I can...Now every morning is different, and everyone needs to be flexible,but I find if I have a good plan then I end up getting a lot done. That makes me feel like I'm winning!!! So here it goes: My Morning - Noon schedule= make bed,- get dressed, - pick up clutter from bed room and bathroom, - clean toilet,sink, and counter, - clean toilet ,sink, and counter in kids bathroom, - start a load of laundry, - start tea or make juice, - tidy living room and dining room, - open curtains and blinds, - breakfast, - tea/juice and Bible, - check planner, - meeting with children, - get school started, - put wash load in dryer, start another load, - computer time, - check on kids, - phone calls, - school administrator duties, - lunch, - wash dishes, - start projects, or get some sun...play outside,ect., - put everything away, - start dinner, - look good for Jerry when he comes home, and warn the kids to behave, - have a nice cold glass of water and a small snack waiting for Jerry, - and be excited to see my sweety when he walks through the door.- BREATH a sigh of relief. Well that's my plan, but life doesn't always end up the way you plan...Today you might be tired because you've been up all night with a sick child.You may be looking at 4 loads of laundry and the dryer just broke and Sears can't come out till Thursday.... or The phone is ringing and you wanted to let the answering machine to get it, but one of your children proudly brings it to you and it's on. or You need to get groceries but one of the kids has a huge project to do for school.or Your husband will be home soon and the house is still a mess and he's expecting dinner. Do you dare serve him chicken nuggets and fries again? Don't get discouraged, If you've lent your husband a supportive ear and provided breakfast,lunch and dinner, then you have put in a good days work.No matter how much is on your to do list....... Does any body have any other ideas and what works for you? Let me know.
Thursday, April 14, 2011
Princess turns 10
Not being sidetracked anymore:
If I designate twenty minutes religiously every single day to putting away clutter...and if it is done every single day, the results are amazing. What helped me was a realization of how mush time and energy I was wasting on clutter.I didn't have the time to dust it,the space to keep it, so I got rid of it...There is an appointed time for everything...A time to keep and a time to throw away.
Peace and quiet on the homefront.
A clean house is important! My husband will find it much easier to come home from work and relax if the house is clean. I think that's why my husband loves to stay at home...Not all houses can be nice and expensive, but all houses can be clean...The condition of my house is a major factor in determining the atmosphere of the house.I mean, who can experience real contentment while living in a pigpen.Dirty dishes,filthy floors, stinky bathrooms,unmade beds,and disorganization will lead to discontentment....Laziness is unexcusable! I am trying my best to make my home a place of happiness and joy, laughter and rejoicing.A place to bring friends without feeling embarrassment.A place where someone will listen,share,love and understand. A place of quietness,yet a place of life and activity. A haven from the cruel world. A place my family wants to be and wants to stay...
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